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Managing Your Expectations: The Reality of Your Child’s Sleep Journey
Lacy Hess • March 23, 2025
Why Independent Sleep Takes Time, How to Set Your Child Up for Success, and the Importance of Consistency
Managing Your Expectations: The Reality of Your Child’s Sleep Journey
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If you’ve ever felt frustrated because your child’s sleep isn’t improving as quickly as you expected, you’re not alone. One of the biggest challenges parents face when working on sleep is managing their expectations. The truth is, sleep training and independent sleep don’t happen overnight. It’s a process, and like any other developmental milestone, it takes time, patience, and consistency.
The Myth of the “Perfect Sleeper”
It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that sleep training means your child will sleep 12 hours straight within a few nights. You might hear stories from other parents about how their baby magically started sleeping through the night after just two days, and you wonder, “What am I doing wrong?”
Here’s the reality: Every child is different. Some adapt quickly to sleep changes, while others need more time. Just because another parent had a seemingly smooth experience doesn’t mean you should expect the same timeline for your child. Sleep isn’t a one-size-fits-all process.
Real-World Expectations: What Sleep Progress Actually Looks Like
Let’s consider a few real-world examples:
• The “Almost There” Baby: Emma, an 8-month-old, started sleep training, and by the third night, she fell asleep without being rocked. However, she still woke up once during the night. Her parents initially felt discouraged, wondering if they were failing. But after a week of consistency, Emma began sleeping through the night.
• The “Two Steps Forward, One Step Back” Toddler: Noah, a 2-year-old, transitioned to his own bed. The first few nights, he did great, but then he started getting out of bed frequently. His parents stayed consistent, walking him back each time, and within two weeks, his nighttime wake-ups decreased significantly.
• The “Slow and Steady” Baby: Liam, a 5-month-old, took longer to adjust. For the first few nights, he cried for 20 minutes before falling asleep. By the fifth night, it was 10 minutes. By the tenth night, it was just a few whimpers. His parents stayed patient, knowing they were setting him up for long-term success.
These are all normal experiences! Progress may not be linear, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t making strides toward independent sleep.
Setting Your Child Up for Sleep Success
If you want your child to succeed with sleep, you need to give them the right tools. This means:
• A predictable bedtime routine
– Babies and toddlers thrive on routine. The same steps each night signal that it’s time for sleep.
• A sleep-friendly environment
– Keep the room dark, use white noise, and ensure your child isn’t overtired or under-tired when being put down.
• Allowing space for self-settling – It’s tempting to rush in at every sound, but giving your child a chance to settle on their own is crucial.
Balancing Sleep With Real Life
Life doesn’t always allow for a perfect sleep schedule. If you’re out late for extracurriculars, a family event, or other commitments, it’s important to manage your expectations about how bedtime will go that night—and even how daytime behavior might look the next day. A late bedtime can lead to a harder settle at night and potentially more fussiness or meltdowns the next day.
As parents, it’s about prioritizing what’s important to us and understanding that there are risks and benefits to many of our decisions. If you’re wanting to prioritize sleep, that’s great! But you may need to get creative and ask for help from family, friends, or even a sitter to achieve your sleep goals.
If that’s not possible, then know that sleep may not look exactly like you want it to on those late nights—and that’s okay. Flexibility is part of parenting, and one late night won’t undo all of your hard work.
The Importance of Consistency
A common mistake parents make is assuming that if sleep hasn’t improved in three nights, it’s not working. But imagine if you quit teaching your child to walk after three days because they kept falling down! Independent sleep is a skill that takes practice.
Commit to your sleep plan for at least two weeks before assessing whether adjustments are needed. It’s normal for your child to test boundaries or experience regressions. What matters is that you stay consistent so your child knows what to expect.
How to Handle Sleep Setbacks
Even with a solid sleep plan, there will be nights where things don’t go perfectly. Whether it’s due to illness, travel, or late-night activities, setbacks are part of the journey. The key is to return to your sleep strategy as soon as possible. Avoid introducing new sleep associations that might create long-term struggles.
If you find yourself constantly dealing with disrupted sleep schedules, consider whether adjustments need to be made. Sometimes, shifting bedtime earlier, improving nap timing, or tweaking the bedtime routine can make a big difference.
Don’t Give Up – Sleep Success Is Possible!
If your child’s sleep isn’t perfect after a few nights, don’t lose hope. Change takes time, and the best thing you can do is stay the course. If you’re struggling with consistency or need guidance, I can help! Book a free consultation, and let’s talk about how to bring sleep back to your home!
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